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Glad this was my first @bonappetitmag bio 🙏🏻 Also, some thoughts on how we as pro-choice women interact with one another when we’re talking about abortion: Last week, while all of this was going down, @thecauldronboston asked if I’d be up for hosting a fundraiser they dubbed an “Abortion Shower” at @rebelrebelsomerville. As a woman who has had an abortion (click on the link in bio for why that matters), I thought the idea was creative and interesting, and a welcome break from the constant moral weight women who’ve had abortions are “supposed” to feel. I was into it. Many other women, however, were not. Some of them respectfully commented about their personal reactions to the event, which is always fine and important. Several other women decided to insist that this event was in bad taste because “every woman struggles with the decision to have an abortion.” Here’s the truth: If your support of women’s reproductive rights is conditional—if you’re only ok with abortion if we’re sad and quiet and morose about it—you need to rethink what you require of other women. If I want to make jokes about it, if I want to shout it out, that’s my damn business, because it’s my body and my choice. Every time you insist that women who’ve had abortions should be treated with kid gloves, you are assigning them trauma they don’t deserve to feel. Every time you argue for mourning you are telling us to mourn. You are telling us we have done something worthy of shame and regret. We made a choice. We made a constitutional, safe, common choice. And every time you behave as though that isn’t the whole of the truth, you edge closer and closer to the right. We chose. We are strong. Let us tell you if we need you to be gentle. Don’t belittle us with your sympathy. It’s hollow and dangerous. END RANT NOW GET OUT THERE AND PROTEST YOUR FACES OFF 💥
Last night we raised $12K for @yellowfund ✨ Mother Nature showed up for us, and @rebelrebelsomerville was filled with a compassionate, concerned, emboldened community holding womxn they’ll never meet in cities thousands of miles away in their hearts. I woke up early this morning to a partner who was proud of me—he’s an angel human who tried his best to get me to feel the same pride, but all I can think about are the womxn who need us. I’ve been that woman. I went to Restaurant Depot instead, because that’s what I know how to do 🤷🏼♀️ I’m proud of our community, and I feel grateful for the platform I’ve been given and the chance to amplify a cause that is deeply meaningful to me, but I can’t take the time to stop and pat myself on the back. There is so much work to do. There are so many lives at stake. I have so much to learn. This week, I’ve been frustrated, scared, angry, depressed, anxious, and hopeless. The last few days have lifted me up in ways I can’t express—all I can say is thank you. Thank you for showing up for each other. Thank you for showing this city that grassroots activism can work. Thank you for helping me. Just please, please—don’t stop your activism. Read. Volunteer. Keep donating. We’re almost out of rosé at the bar, but we’ll be collecting cash donations all weekend, and you can also match case sales, host your own event, or go right to our GoFundMe linked in bio. To see a list of all participating establishments (not just in Boston!), click the link in bio. You can also visit @abortionfunds for orgs that needs help in states other than Alabama. Big thanks to @isenbergprojects for helping to push this out in ways I wouldn’t have been able to imagine on my own, and to every business owner who decided to stand up with us—You’re the real shit, and I love you ❤️ #roseforresistance
HELLO TEAM⚡️I started this thing at @rebelrebelsomerville + @isenbergprojects made it an even better thing 🙌🏻 We’re still donating 100% of rosé sales to @yellowfund all weekend (we raised $5K so far!), but now there are even more ways to get involved! Head over to the @rebelrebelsomerville page for info about what we’re doing, and check the link in bio for other ways to get in on telling the government to fuck off 🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻 #roseforresistance